Forgiveness may just save your life
Have you ever heard the saying that harbouring bitterness is like drinking poison and expecting the person you’re angry with to die from it. Bitterness and unforgiveness doesn’t affect anyone as much as it does you.
With all the studies that have come out about the adverse effects resentment has on our health it’s a wonder to me that people still choose to cling to bitterness. You’re not hurting anyone but yourself. I suppose it’s easier said than done but I do feel there are somethings to consider.
WE OFFEND PEOPLE SOMETIMES AS WELL
Yes, you who feels offended and upset because of how they’ve wronged you, you’ve done something to someone that was just as bad and, in some cases, worse than what you’re angry at. We are all humans in need of grace. No one is asking you to be buddy buddy with the person who wronged you. But remember no human is perfect. Including you, if you’re without fault kindly cast the first stone, go ahead, I’ll wait.
Forgiveness is for you 👊
One of the reasons why we tend to have issues with forgiveness is to do with the fact that we think forgiveness is for the offender. It’s for you, harbouring resentment is harmful and the more you hold on to it the more you corrode your soul. There is true freedom in letting go. These are the reasons why we can’t trust, the reasons why we can’t look ahead it’s because we’ve not truly forgiven. When you realise that hey, it’s better for me and my future if I forgive this idiot, things begin to get clearer. I know that person offended you terribly but for your own sake, and for the sake of your future I beg you, let them go. There are too many people rotting in the grave because unforgiveness killed them before their time.
One day you will need that same grace you refuse to give.
Like I said in my earlier point, there will come a time you will offend someone too and you’ll need the grace you refuse to give, don’t be too high and mighty to give second chances. We all make mistakes, and we all make grave mistakes. I feel that in every sphere of influence this mentality needs to be adopted people are treated too harshly over mistakes that anyone could make. Let’s endeavour to cultivate a culture of forgiveness in our workspaces, in our family dynamics, everywhere.
Unforgiveness hurts people too…
When we don’t forgive people who are truly repentant for their actions, we reinforce this faulty belief that people can’t change, what you’re telling the offender is you did it once you’ll do it again, so you don’t deserve forgiveness. Whilst that might be true to an extent, there is also a chance that the offender is truly sorry and deserves a second chance or at least forgiveness. Don’t allow your bitterness to be the reason why someone never rises from the ashes of their mistake.
About the Author
Raphael Tamakloe is a Freelance Content writer; an able seller with experience in the retail industry, who has a passion for religious youth work, narrative writing of all kinds and is a skilled communicator with a flair for leadership. Graduated with a Masters in Communication, Culture and Media from Coventry University. Image courtesy of Getty Images.
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